Thinking about the attributes and qualities of successful people provides a great benchmark for us to audit our own ‘success factor’. Look at the list below of 8 attributes of successful people that I have pulled together. Augment the list if you think there is something missing – and let us know so we can build up a super list.
Or you could take the list and using it as a benchmark rate yourself –
- Successful People Embrace change. Unsuccessful People Fear change.
Change is always going to occur around us, indeed the only thing that will not change is the fact that change is inevitable. Given this you have a choice. Either you choose to adapt and flourish or slowly fail. Some changes are incremental so unless you are vigilant you might not even notice things changing around you. In some ways this is the most dangerous since those less attuned and focused on changing and growing (as a person, as a business) will, possibly without even realising it, decline. Abrupt changes, whilst potentially more frightening, at least jolt us into action, albeit often late and less effective than if the change is anticipated and managed. To be successful you need to set your own change agenda and work on this.
- Successful people want others to succeed. Unsuccessful people secretly hope others fail.
Spending all your time hoping someone fails not only attracts bad energy, it’s simply a waste of time. All those times thinking about the demise of others is time that can be spent doing things to help you become more successful. It is having the attitude of plentifulness versus the attitude of scarcity. The attitude of plentifulness means that you do not need to worry about others, indeed you can see endless possibilities if the people around you succeed. The attitude of scarcity means that you work on the premise the only one person can succeed so the more that fail the better your chances. The problem with this latter position is that it creates failure. If you believe success if scarce, it become scare and you suffer from this.
- Successful people accept responsibly for their failures. Unsuccessful blame others for their failures.
Being a true leader takes one who will be honest when they screw up. It puts you in a position of solving the problem instead of complaining about it. This is the difference between taking responsibility and having the mindset “I am responsible for everything that happens to me” as opposed to one where you defend and justify. If you are late it is the fault of the traffic rather than the fact that you choose to not get up 30 minutes earlier ‘just in case the traffic is bad’. This choice may not have been a bad choice in itself (indeed over time it probably saves you a considerable amount of down time; the key is that it was your choice.
- Successful people talk about ideas. Unsuccessful people talk about other people’s failures.
Talking about other people’s failure or faults is a waste of time. However, it can become very addictive. It is an example of externalising responsibility. Thinking more positively and focusing on ideas and possibilities will have an uplifting effect on everything that you do. Think about how much time you currently spend taking about other people in a negative way. Imagine the benefits if all that time is spent on brainstorming the next big idea that changes the world, or even your world.
- Successful people give people all the credit for their victories. Unsuccessful people take all the credit from others.
No matter who you are, it takes an amazing team of talented people to help you attain success. Spending time making sure the people you work with are appreciated will not only help attract the best talents to you, but help ensure everyone is giving their best efforts to complete the end-goal. Taking the time to thank people who have helped you achieve each success is integral to how successful people operate.
- Successful people operate from a transformational perspective. Unsuccessful people operate from a transactional perspective.
True leaders focus on growth and ways to make him/herself and the people around them better. It’s not always about just getting as much out of people as possible. This is not only short term thinking, but doesn’t set you up as a person people would want to be around with. Taking the longer term view might take a bit more time in the short term but pays dividends longer term. In response to a request for help ‘Here, let me do it, it will be quicker’ vs ‘let’s take the time to run through it together and then you have a go so you can do it next time’.
- Successful people forgive others. Unsuccessful People hold grudges.
Successful people are always forward thinking and know that holding grudges can hold them back. Take Steve Jobs for example, even with his bouts with Bill Gates, it was ultimately Gates who took part in investing his own dollars to help save Apple. You can’t do stuff like that when you hold grudges with people.
- Successful people have gratitude. Unsuccessful people don’t appreciate others and the world around them.
Being appreciative of the things around you keeps you grounded and makes you realise the beauty of the world. You can’t change the world if you hate it. Successful people appreciate others and are comfortable complimenting, or even challenging them. Unsuccessful people tend to do little more than criticise.